Being Hurt by a Loved One

Hey Ania,

I know how it feels like to be a little hurt by someone you truly love, but yet you still want to keep being with that person no matter what. It can be pretty hard for you and it isn't as simple as it seems.

But it's totally fine to feel that way. It's normal for someone to have that feeling. Although if that moment really did make you overthink, it's a good thing that you were open enough to get some advice and help from others.

I believe the first thing to do is that you should not overthink so much about this. Don't let it affect the way you see yourself because of what he said. Overthinking can make a negative state of mind for you. It'll just make more unwanted thoughts come to your head. That isn't so healthy for you, right?

Now tell him how you feel. Do it all face to face too. Don't wait for the next day to do it. You need to do it right away before your thoughts overcome you and make you forget about talking about it. Make sure to tell him about how his comment made you feel this way. Say whatever you wanna say, because if he said something to you that was in his mind, you should reply with something back too. You don't need to keep it boggled up inside of your head.

If you truly love him, you might as well speak out your thoughts and be honest. Relationships are meant to feel and look like an amazing thing on Earth. They are meant to go through things, and making you both know that your love will heal again after any arguments. You both always feel loved by him until the end.

After that, just wait. Be patient. Maybe he will regret saying that to you once he sees you in a beautiful dress on your wedding day. :)

If he ever makes any more hurtful comments or anything like that, make sure to tell someone, at least us. Having a relationship like that is very toxic and won't make you feel so happy about yourself.

It's not easy for someone to have these sort of thoughts, and you should be proud of yourself for coming to us to seek some help.

This is all that I can give to you, may not be much. But as long as you tell him your thoughts from that moment, then you'll do just fine. :)

hey,

I just want to start off by saying I can't generally decide if this is a joke or not, or a genuine post; i'll give you the benefit of the doubt and speak as if this is a serious complaint. This website is pretty much run by teenagers, all in one school who, let's be honest, probably don't have the best relationship advice. But, we do know this: your boyfriend is supposed to make you feel good about yourself- he should never get away with belittling you, or hurting you physically and/or mentally. If he does, it's time to break up with him. In your case, a breakup is not something I would aim towards. Notice how you came here and communicated your issue, and I'm communicating my advice? Communication is everything- especially in a relationship. I know it might be hard, it might be awkward, but you just have to sit down and talk to him about this. Address it in a way where you understand that although it may not have been his intention, it did hurt you deep down. Be open with him; let him know how you truly feel. Don't hold back, don't let this boil up inside of you. Get it all out on the table and say what you need to... One really important thing to mention is that you're happy with who you are, and if he isn't, he needs to re-evaluate his relationship with you. Keep us posted with how things pan out :)

Good Luck!

Agreeing with Karol, you always have the community to turn too.

Hey Ania,

If you ever need to talk to us feel free to post on Studio or click the chat button. Ask for me and I’ll be happy to be there for you ❤️ And honestly, if he did such a thing, talk to him. Maybe he didn’t realize what he did was wrong. I’m not an expert on this, but talking gives a lot.